Jealousy is a fear and anger based emotion and you need to learn to overcome it. If you feel jealous over a look, text, hug, friendship or anything normal, then you have a serious problem and you need to figure out how to help yourself and change your ways. Let me tell you how I feel in my current relationship, it’s the best way I can describe this. I’ve been with my boyfriend for a little over 3 years. I love him to death and want him to stick around for as long as we’re happy together, which I’m hoping is until death. So, obviously, I’m crazy about him. Let’s say he meets a girl at school or work, they become friends and start talking as friends. Will I get jealous? Eh, maybe a little. Why? Because I’m not super confident in myself. I’m aware of that and I’m working on that. I would never tell him to stop talking to her though. I would never restrict my loved one from friendship. If he leaves me for her, I deserve better. NOT because he’s a bad guy, but maybe because she’s better for him than me. That’s a very scary and uncomfortable thought, but it may happen. It shouldn’t tear you down in the long run though. Yeah, I’ll be sad and upset for a few days. It’ll be hard getting back on my feet for a few weeks, even months. Understandable. He left me though. I deserve better than that. I would move on with my life. If you’re working on not being jealous and you are, let your partner know! Tell them “your relationship with ______ makes me a little uncomfortable, so if I act weird, I’m sorry”. Sometimes your partner will care enough to not continue that relationship, which is perfectly fine as long as it’s not a close relationship they already had. Definitely let your partner know though, don’t be aggressive, let them know you’re working on it but it’s hard sometimes. Usually it’ll lead to a conversation that’ll make you feel much better about yourself and your relationship. Don’t restrict them though. Being jealous is also about trust too. I’m sick of seeing this bullshit comment like “I trust my partner!! I just don’t trust other people!!!”… okay, I understand that. I feel the same way in a sense, but that’s not an excuse to act psycho and not let your partner speak with and/or befriend other people (yes, including their ex’s!!!). If something happens that is the other persons doing, not your partners, trust that your partner will tell you and move past it together. It’s not like they wanted it to happen, correct? They may have let it happen, yeah, and that’s totally up to you to decide if you deserve better or not or if you consider it cheating or not. I personally believe in second chances, even in cases of cheating, but if you feel you deserve better, then you know sooner rather than later so you’re not wasting more of your time with them. (p.s. please don’t be mean to your ex’s, just move on. Being mean is just immature and rude. I don’t care what they did). You easily jealous people won’t want to hear this, but getting jealous is very childlike and exposes who you really are. It shows how insecure you truly are, how little you trust your partner and how unhealthy your relationship is (major jealousy is very unhealthy for a relationship and causes stress because most times you’re restricting your partner from certain things – overly jealous people, you are/can be abusive). If you’re a jealous person, please work on that. You won’t ever have a truly happy or healthy relationship if you’re a jealous person. The change won’t happen over night, it’s like people with anger issues. It takes work, but you need to work on it and overcome it. Jealousy tears people apart, turns people against each other, promotes hatred and leads to nothing but anger. Be strong enough to admit you need to change, then go to that next step and fix your faults. Everyone has them, don’t be ashamed unless you’re not helping yourself. Remember, positive vibes only. 🙂